No black box, no “trust the algorithm.” Here is what Cupidt actually weighs when we look for your person — and the honest science under each piece. The through-line, in one sentence Dre keeps on the wall: match on what you value, balance on how you run.
01First, everyone is real
Before a single question about compatibility, every member passes ID + liveness verification. It's the foundation: matching only means something when both people are provably real humans. No bots, no catfish — ever.
02Values and life goals — where we look for similarity
Family, faith, ambition, how you think about money, whether you want kids and on what timeline. The research is clear that couples align far more on values and life goals than on personality, and that shared values predict lasting satisfaction. So this is weighted highest, and it's where we look for genuine overlap — not a personality-test match.
03Energy and rhythm — where we look for balance
Your pace, your social battery, whether you're a lark or an owl, how you move through a hard day. Here we often look for complement, not a mirror — a high-energy runner tends to do best with steady ground; a short fuse with deep patience. But not everyone wants their opposite, so this one is learned per person: we start from what you tell us and adjust to who you actually light up around.
Your mirror, or your opposite?
Some people thrive with someone just like them; others need a counterweight. We don't assume — we ask, then we learn from who you actually connect with, and we never tell you your self-image is wrong.
04Where you come from — roots as a gentle signal
Small town or big city, a loud full house or a quiet calm one, how far you live from where you grew up. Upbringing shapes what “home” feels like. We use it as a soft prior that nudges — never a hard filter you can't override.
05How you connect — your connection style
How you respond when someone pulls away, how you handle conflict, how you show love. Framed as your connection style (never a diagnosis), this helps us steer around the classic pursue-and-withdraw trap and toward pairings where both people can feel secure. Secure connection lifts every match.
06Close enough to actually meet
Every introduction is within 100 miles. Physical proximity is one of the oldest and most-replicated predictors of relationships that actually form — and a match you can't reach for a real first date isn't a match, it's a pen pal.
07The stress-test — an outlook, not a prophecy
Before we introduce two people, we run the pairing through a durability simulation — a thousand simulated first-year scenarios with real stressors — to rank matches and surface where you'll click and where you'll rub. You see three honest bands: Strong foundation, Growth match, or High-friction, always with the named frictions and a play for each. What you will never see is a fake “lasts 2.3 years” number. No engine can honestly predict chemistry or duration, and we won't pretend otherwise.
The Patient Search
If no one clears our confidence bar, we do not introduce you and we do not charge you. Instead we ask a few sharper questions. A matcher that refuses to sell you a mediocre match is the whole point.
What we don't do — the honesty moat
No love guarantees. No “we predicted your soulmate” claims. We never sell your answers — this questionnaire is exactly the intimate data people fear leaking, so we treat it like medical-grade information, and you can delete it with one email. There's an optional cosmic layer (astrology / Human Design) if that's your language — opt-in, matched on shared belief, and honestly framed as reflection and conversation fuel, never as science.